Why you don’t want to leave the house and how to deal with it - advice from psychologists

Reluctance to leave the house is not a reason to worry if a person is satisfied with this state of affairs. However, when such behavior comes as a surprise and causes psychological inconvenience, it is worth fighting the “homebody” in all possible ways.

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The desire to sit within four walls most often appears in the following cases:

• There's simply nowhere to go - This problem is faced by those who live in small towns and villages. Every day these people are forced to follow the same route, see the same landscapes, often unattractive. They have no choice, since the nearest cinema, botanical garden, and amusement park are several tens of kilometers away.
• Everything around is gray and boring — some cities are depressing. Box houses made of gray concrete slabs, lack of greenery and flowers in summer, black tree trunks in autumn and winter, dirt splashed from under the wheels of cars, cloudy skies, smog and unfriendly faces of the surrounding people - in order not to see this, people prefer to be there where they feel comfortable, that is, in their apartment.
• Can't form your own social circle — you can go somewhere alone, but it’s not as fun as with a group. However, finding friends with similar priorities in life is not easy, especially if a person’s interests go beyond the boundaries accepted by society: everyday life, family, work.Anyone who prefers an exhibition of medieval costumes to sitting in a bar doesn’t have much of a chance to meet like-minded people.
• Fatigue has accumulated - a person who is involved in a constant race for a career, who is forced to deal with routine household chores every day and who has almost no time for rest, will always choose the opportunity to stay at home rather than walking through shopping centers and boulevards.



• There was disappointment in people - usually the reason for this is the betrayal of family, friends and colleagues. People around us, sometimes without meaning to, evoke negative emotions in us. However, sometimes they do this intentionally, but the result is always the same - depression and reluctance to leave their home.
• A person does not need contact with the outside world - Lately this reason has become increasingly relevant. With the advent of the Internet, you can satisfy your need for communication in chat rooms and forums; talk to friends via messenger; It’s easier than ever to observe other people’s lives on YouT. And delivery of groceries, water, prepared food and other goods takes the need to go shopping off the list.

It is worth mentioning the fact that each person has his own character. Some people can’t imagine their life without noisy parties and constant conversations with friends, while others need a relationship with their parents and significant other. Representatives of the second type would rather stay at home and read a book than agree to go to a concert - this is absolutely normal. Moreover, with age, preferences can change, as well as worldview.

Solution

If a person would like to spend more time outside the home, but for psychological reasons he cannot afford it, he should seek help from a specialist. Residents of small towns, where it is almost impossible to find a qualified psychoanalyst, can sign up for an online consultation.

If the “soul-searching” yielded results and the person managed to understand what keeps him in his native land, he can fight back the problem on his own.

What exactly needs to be done depends on the reason for homelessness:

• If you don’t like the reality around you, in this case it’s time to act decisively. And the best option would be to move to another city. Often such changes look scary; I don’t want to leave my illusory comfort zone, look for work and housing, meet new people and adapt to different conditions. But in reality, such a shake-up turns out to be very useful - a person finally experiences pleasure in life and gets out of the endless web of depressive states.



• Communication problems - they can only be solved by finding the right company. Even if there are no people within one particular city who share your interests, nothing prevents you from looking for them in other parts of the country and even the planet. It will be easiest for those who have some kind of hobby - studies foreign languages, sculpts from polymer clay, makes costumes for role-playing games, is interested in rock climbing, aviation or water sports, breeds exotic snakes and lizards. Firstly, there are specialized forums “for hobbies” - everyone will understand you there and certainly no one will judge you. And secondly, there are constantly meetings and congresses where you can communicate with like-minded people live.



• If the reason for everything is fatigue and disappointment, you need to find a way to relax - for example, take a vacation.

However, you should only look for a solution if you yourself see a problem in your home life. People around you who hint or directly say that something is wrong with you may be pursuing their own goals, so their opinion should not be the reason for any changes in life. If in doubt, it is better to talk to a psychologist - he will give a realistic assessment of the situation.