What a woman should do around the house - 10 things that men can’t do
Most household chores are universal - both spouses can handle them equally. However, there are also things that a woman (wife) should do around the house. Basically, these are things that require attention and free time.
Creating comfort
Men, as a rule, are alien to the desire to make their home more comfortable. They don’t see the point in buying all these flower vases, paintings, night lights, New Year’s garlands and Easter baskets, scented candles and other cute little things that turn an empty, cold space into a lived-in home with a “delicious” atmosphere, where you want to return after difficult work. everyday life. Therefore, women have to do landscaping - the fair sex knows a lot about comfort.
Cooking
It cannot be said that watching the stove is a purely female occupation. Rather, the person who is better at it and who has the time to do it should cook the food. But often circumstances are such that it is the wives who return from work several hours earlier or spend the whole day at home, so it is they who have to take on the responsibility of providing the family with breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Making a grocery list
Going to the store is an activity for a man, because it is easier for him to push a full cart and carry bags of groceries home.However, it is not forbidden to go shopping together - this is another reason for spending time together, albeit within the framework of household duties.
But making a list of what should migrate from store shelves to the home refrigerator is a purely female responsibility. Men rarely manage to combine products correctly, and they tend to buy more than they need. So if you let your husband or son take the goods at their discretion, there is a risk that over the next few weeks the family menu will consist of dumplings with mayonnaise, pasta with ketchup and fried potatoes with “ketchonez”.
Care for children
Both parents should give their children enough time and attention. But when it comes to caring for babies, it is much easier for a woman to understand why a child is crying (he is bored, scared, hungry, or something hurts); a mother intuitively senses the needs of her son or daughter. Therefore, staying with children in the first months and years is a woman’s responsibility. However, this does not mean that a man-father is exempt from providing her with all possible help - he must do everything so that his wife has time to rest and take care of herself.
Buying textiles for home
A real woman, like no one else, understands the quality of fabrics and knows how to choose those textiles that will fit perfectly into the design of the room, will last a long time and will be pleasant to the body. So the purchase falls on her shoulders:
- bed linen;
- curtains;
- towels for the kitchen and bathroom;
- tablecloths and napkins;
- blankets and rugs.
Cleaning
Since both spouses live in the house, they should do the cleaning together. It also doesn’t hurt to involve children in this activity who are old enough to understand what they are doing and why.But everyday express cleaning is usually done by a woman - it takes her 5-10 minutes to wipe the dust on the window sills and tables, put small things in their places and, if necessary, water the flowers.
Washing dishes
If the house does not have a dishwasher, washing dishes and pots becomes almost a punishment. Each family member tries to delegate an unpleasant responsibility to the other, and as a result, the woman ends up having to sort out the mountain of dirty dishes in the sink. But it will be much easier if the wife agrees to wash kitchen utensils, voluntarily taking this task upon herself. After all, most husbands work late and are more tired; forcing them to also pick up a sponge after a hard day at work is not entirely fair.
Distribution of money for household needs
Thoughtless spending can lead to the collapse of the family budget. A woman’s responsibility is to ensure that the money allocated for housekeeping does not run out before the due date. All you need to do is be able to plan your purchases of food, household chemicals, home textiles, dishes and other utensils for a month in advance.
Maintaining order
Clean, not where people constantly walk around with a broom and vacuum cleaner, but where they constantly maintain order with all their might. Men rarely bother with the fact that this or that thing is out of place, so it is women who have to keep track of items scattered around the apartment (cups of unfinished tea, clothes, office supplies, etc.). It is not necessary to clean up the mess yourself - it is enough to indicate to the “violator of discipline” the need to clean up after himself.
Expiration date control
This item includes not only food products, but also medicines, household chemicals, and personal hygiene products.Men and children rarely pay attention to the expiration date of these products. So the only way to preserve the health of your household is to monitor expiration dates yourself and throw away what will become unusable in a month or two.
Depending on the way of life adopted in a particular family, a woman’s responsibilities may be different. There are many examples of men running the household while their wives devote time to work and build a career. You should not take all of the above as a direct guide to action - rather, it is information for thought.
My husband is great at washing dishes!!! But I can’t trust the toilet. In general, there is a wonderful observation: what a woman does is not visible, it is visible when she does not do it!!!
Both a man and a woman can do everything perfectly alone. One can also become cluttered and dirty. Everything depends on desire and habits. Well, education. The only thing you can’t cope with on your own is having children, there’s no way without two.
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That's right
My husband and I equally hate scented candles, trinkets that accumulate dust. There is a bouquet of fresh flowers on the table, and two lithographs of paintings on the wall. There are comfortable pillows in beautiful covers on the sofas and armchairs. One glass shelf of ceramics. Beautiful lamps (we chose them together). Bed linen, blankets and rugs were also chosen together (I hate sets with large flowers, my husband doesn’t like black and white ones). We bought a dishwasher. We don’t litter, and we don’t have to clean up after anyone. Previously, we went to the shops and the market together, then I became convinced that my husband was shopping very wisely, adding something to the list that I had missed, and we split into two teams: I go to the market to buy fruits, vegetables, herbs, nuts, he for other products go to the supermarket.
In general, the words “a woman should”, “a woman is obliged” are not very clear to me. I like to cook and iron clothes myself, and I do it better, the rest is either done together or someone else has time. Business! Kinder-küche-kirche!
Now many people work the same way and bring the same contribution to the budget. So leave the tales about women sitting at home or coming home from work a few hours earlier. And there is also no need for stories that women are less tired. Both work and both manage everyday life. Since a man cannot be a full-fledged sole breadwinner and his wife shares his responsibilities with him, then he should share everyday life with her, for obvious reasons, and not dump everything on her.
You forgot about such a little thing as maternity leave.With the first three years and with the second three years. And after such a life, a woman’s brains come out of her ass and she doesn’t even understand where she lives. Fine?
In my opinion, it is complete nonsense and the article was written by a male representative. What does it mean that men come later and it’s unfair for them to wash the dishes? complete nonsense. There should be equality in the family and if a woman clears the table, then only if a man buys food for this table, for example. But in general, a normal man is able to cope with all of the above and/or take part in the processes, in the article they are just another kind of children. If most men are just like that, but they really make women feel sad, am I really the only one lucky?..
I am also for equality in the family. But the first child must be born by a woman, and the second must be born by a man. Well, for equality!
In short, a woman should do everything. Funny article and the author is a storyteller.
Ahahah. I do everything alone. Don't like comfort? Can't we? Girls, don’t date rednecks and you will be happy.b
Apart from the first point, which we do 50/50, I do all this perfectly well, on weekends I generally forbid my wife from doing anything around the house, maximum shopping in the car, force-feeding goodies with champagne, or a restaurant, We both work, and also together, we come at the same time, three children, schoolchildren, no grandparents, she has been an orphan since she was 11 years old, mine died in 07, Many people judge me, call me names, but I just feel sorry for the hands of my wife and love her very much, even though lived together for 22 years.
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I envy your wife!!! I wish you happiness for many years to come. Unfortunately, exceptions only confirm the rules.
Nikolai! I respect you!!! My husband behaves similarly, and we have been together for 40 years!!!
Well done, Nikolai! Your wife is very lucky to have you! And those who look askance and condemn - send them to the forest!
Well, not all points are simply “not feasible” for men. The financial side is generally the responsibility of the husband, I think. Yes, in Russia, for some reason, it is accepted that a man should give his salary to a woman, and she should manage it... But if you think about it, the head of the family is still a man, he earns money and he must completely control what and where it goes. And a woman already has enough headaches to worry about her children and home, it would be better not to delve into financial troubles at all
No, dear Natalya. The husband should bring his salary into the nightstand!
But how to spend, 70 percent, is the wife’s responsibility!!!
30 percent is spending on pleasure for the whole family, or for two if there are no small bugs?
But the right, and the sacred duty of the husband, if he is of course a husband, is to earn a nest egg, without compromising the family budget, and spend it on his beloved wife and mother of his children. Well, somewhere like that?
And I would be very interested to know what are men’s responsibilities in the house? And who said that women come home a FEW hours earlier? Is the author’s perception of reality okay?
Men (normal men, of whom the majority) cope EXCELLENTLY with all these responsibilities.
And what is described in the article is simply the functions of a housekeeper. Darmova.
Creating coziness with flowers, trinkets, etc. - something feminine. Everything else is easily shared between two.
What nonsense? A man can and can do all this, sometimes even better than a woman.
What nonsense. How can I sue this author? I'm serious. He insulted my human feelings. In normal families this is not even discussed.Those who have time and desire do housework. What difference does it make if you are a woman or a man?
The article was written by a senile person! MEN ARE OBLIGATED TO SHARE HOUSEWORK HALF WITH WOMEN! Otherwise let them go
I completely agree!!
I completely agree. The article is completely crazy
Well, dear ladies, judging by the flow of indignant responses, you have endless time to talk about it!!!! Don’t forget, no one kicked my husband!!)) Why did mom teach a young fighter a course!? Build a family, because no one will do it for you!!!!!!
The article describes an ideal situation
A woman works half a day or not at all. A man provides almost entirely for his family.
Life is far from ideal.
This was probably written by a dude who needs to dump all his work on someone else, maybe his wife gets more, and this one is also lying around
Relax, the article was specially written in such a way as to attract the largest number of indignant comments.
Complete nonsense! For more than 20 years now, I have been cooking in our house, washing dishes, going grocery shopping and deciding what is needed, cleaning, even doing most of the laundry. And at the same time, I am the only one who provides the family’s income.
The “funny thing” is that “dearest” is also dissatisfied! How do you like this?...
Sasha, don’t be a deer, let him plow.
What is the wife doing? Lying on the couch? I feel sorry for you..., after all, a wife has her own responsibilities - the responsibilities of a wife, which no one has canceled...
Divorced for twenty years, there is no one to “share” responsibilities with, although after a stroke and its frequent consequence - paralysis - not everything is easy, especially those related to fine motor skills (cooking, for example). Vases and little frills really don’t interest me: comfort, IMHO, is where there is order and every thing is in its place.The children are already waiting for their grandchildren. I'm still dealing with the rest of the issues. But relating to the views of others is both interesting and often instructive.
Author, you see men somehow helpless in everyday life! Did you really just come across these?
What the fuck? This is outdated a long time ago!
The author lives in the 13th century?? We live in a new equal world, where a family is the mutual assistance of two people. And since when can a man not cook??? My dad is Armenian and he happily cooks for the whole family “every” evening and then cleans up after everyone himself!!!!! Also, the cleaning task was distributed to everyone, they got it done faster...... Oh, these stupid stereotypes
A man wrote the article) Poor men get so tired at work, it’s just a disaster. But the woman, of course, doesn’t work))))) And doesn’t get tired)))) Or somehow she doesn’t get so tired. And in general, this is not a man’s business. Everything is clear with you, author.
None of the above is actually impossible for a man, just
women have taken on all these responsibilities themselves, instead of delegating some of them to their significant other, we all work the same way...
Personally, in our family, I cook, do the cleaning and do the laundry. And I think this is normal, these are also men’s responsibilities in the family.
What kind of house building?
It’s disgusting to read, either the author is a man or a woman who is comfortable sitting at home and serving.
For me personally, everything that was written to do was not difficult. I do some things much better than some women. I'm a pastry chef. And that's it.
A bed made immediately after sleep leads to the accumulation of bacteria, fungi and dust mites. For example, I make my bed in the morning, almost the very last thing.Until then, I open it as much as possible and ventilate all its elements. In the summer, when I have more time, I can even hang it out for minimal drying, say, on the balcony, shaking not only the sheets, but also the pillows and blanket with duvet cover. Beauty! In the evening you lie down as if in a clean, fresh bed! And, in general, comfort, cleanliness and order are needed not by others, but by yourself. So do it in a way that pleases you, and not your “neighbor who came to your apartment to ask you for something.”
We have a rule in our family: the cook does not wash the dishes. If someone has prepared the food (me, my husband or children), then the dishes automatically become the responsibility of other family members. Cleaning - everyone participates, I clean, my husband washes the floor and he doesn’t break the windows either, the children vacuum and sort out their rubble. And no one considers who did how much.
Based on my own single experience. I love to cook. I'm too lazy to wash dishes. Cleaning is a nightmare. Ruffle curtains - what the heck.
I didn’t finish reading it, I didn’t have the patience. That's why they write this crap, every hut has its own rattles. They themselves will agree on who should do what. Empty pointless article.
Oh, what a breeeeee... There are families where the wife works longer, or she has to travel further. And it works on weekends. So after work, she still has to get up to the stove, to the sink?.. And her husband - he’s tired, he’s resting... So, what? Each family builds its own life the way it is best for them. And if, for example, my husband comes earlier or is generally resting, then cooking dinner or going to the store is normal. With dishes - yes, it’s difficult :)
ate washed up after myself
I don’t laugh anymore when ladies seriously think that in a city apartment they really work around the house and get very offended when I suggest going to an internship in a village with water to pluck a chicken and so on...oh, they add coziness with little frills and napkins...bought at Ikea or Fix Price... 90% of modern young ladies are not able to tie socks for a child, not to mention more...there is even an anecdote about how to prepare food...guests at the table...and you don’t pray before eating??? and the owner says... don’t worry, it wasn’t his wife who cooked all the dishes ordered for delivery...
Sure sure. Housework in an apartment is not work at all. So do it yourself, men, since it is so easy. And fuck less. And, by the way, nowadays it’s easier to buy socks for pennies in a store, but if you’re stuck in the early 20th century, these are your personal difficulties.
Will you do an internship in the village yourself?))
Or a city boy, do you think that only women plow in the village?)
Plucking and cooking a chicken is not a problem - after the man builds a barn, gets food, cleans up the droppings, finds a veterinarian...
It’s not difficult to milk a cow and process the milk, but before that the husband will build a barn, earn money and choose a cow, will graze it, clean the manure from under it and carry it. She will mow, dry, bale and transport hay. And then feed the cow. He will get grain. He will grow, bring and process other feed for the winter - pumpkin, beets, corn, cake. And then every day in the morning he will cook this for the cow. To husk a dozen dry cobs, you need the kind of hands that...
The wife will also fry their pork cutlets - and the man will choose the pig, grow it, feed it, clean the manure, get the feed, cook some food for her, sip two-bucket pots of porridge...
Bringing water home is not a problem.
Do you know why in the village the men make their own water supply? Because the cow drinks 4 buckets of water at a time, and he has to carry them))))
Garden. Weeding the garden with children, everywhere. But to dig up, raze, make beds, set up a greenhouse and a greenhouse, water daily (for men this is a rest, pulling a hose to the beds in the dark), and in the fall clean and prepare for wintering)) and add humus, after reseeding - that's a man) )))))))
Should I talk about coal, firewood, heating livers, repairing everything in general? And to cover the roof, and to pave the yard with stones, and to make doll furniture for your daughter, and to sew shoes, and to weave nonsense, and to scare away a bad person/beast - this is also all a man.
Yesssss...... You, of course, have loaded the woman to the fullest! But I wonder when she should rest? ……It’s good if she only works around the house, but what if she also goes to work? ……It won’t last long! She is not a horse, but a Woman!!!
Bullshit, I’ve been living alone for 15 years, coping with all this, and I’ve never had a break.
Likewise, a woman, when she lives alone, copes with everything herself.
Would you undertake to serve an adult woman?))))
So, she also found fault - they say, there is dust behind the toilet and the menu is not varied enough, and there is no special feeling of comfort, and you didn’t iron her shirt well, there was a crease on the sleeve?
And all this - in your free time from work?))
Who are you, wonderful men?
Holy shit, a woman should do EVERYTHING, all the routine daily work. Probably because the man goes to the bar after work, and the woman, therefore, comes home several hours earlier. A disgrace, not a post. Sheer sexism, disgusting...
)) Apparently it’s not necessary once in a while)) If you allow your spouse to plan the budget and draw up lists, then there will be nothing left of the budget)) Because he does it all himself))
Knit socks? Or maybe you can build the furniture and house yourself? Who needs this division of labor, let's live like Robinsons
The only thing a man cannot do is give birth to children. And the rest is nonsense. Although there are those who really like it when a woman feeds him, there are those who need a woman to ensure order, and if she simply forces her husband to clean, he is not at all against it, the main thing is that there is order) and there are those who do not care at all, the main thing for them is to talk.
In short, the wife should do everything, and the husband should do the rest.
Why so many words, if it was enough to write that you think that a woman should do everything in the house and at the same time manage to earn good money in order to support a man.
Why the hell do we need this man then!?
Dear author, if you do not work, or work much less than your husband, then these are your personal characteristics. Well, there are some women who would rather not work anywhere than to work.
And in general, in urban conditions, women work the same as men—some even more.
If the husband works in a mine, and the wife sits at home)) or works part-time in the library, then, of course, she will take on the main household load.
And if both plow, then...
So don’t pass off your circumstances as general rules, dear.
As an example))
We have a housekeeper for general cleaning. It’s cheaper to give her a couple thousand times a week than to go to bed yourself. Current cleaning is carried out by someone who has the energy and time. And you won’t get covered in dirt if everything is scrubbed by a professional every week.
The one doing the laundry is the one who happens to be in the bathroom and sees the clothes in the basket.
Whoever wants to cook cooks. For those who don’t want it, there is always milk, kefir, bread, fruit, eggs, and juices. Or there is food delivery - at least they will bring you a bowl of soup if necessary.
I distribute the finances - professional skills)). We have a partially separate budget, at my suggestion - it’s up to me to organize everything. But my husband stubbornly pushes all the organizational moments onto me.
We deal with textiles and comfort together - because we live in the house together. And I don’t really like cluttering the house - I prefer minimalism in the interior.
What nonsense? Why would I be scared to let my wife into the kitchen and the grocery list? I’ve been cooking for 20 years and, I dare to hope, I do it with a solid B (A is Gordon Ramsay, Gennaro Contaldo or Jamie Oliver, mind you, there are almost no women at this level). How can I trust her with risotto or, for example, homemade sausage? How will she grate the pesto? This is about cooking. For cleaning and comfort. We can’t stand it—it’s done by someone who has the strength and time. Blaming the children on your wife is tough, but if you fit in together, you’ll figure it out together. But everyone earns money from us, and my wife does it better and more, because I try to protect such a successful careerist from household chores. Everyone should do what they do best.
Do you think Gordon Ramsay, Gennaro Contaldo or Jamie Oliver cook at home themselves, or do their wives?)))
But in general everything is correct. In my first marriage, my husband took care of all the household chores and the child, and I worked. His health failed after the war - not all injuries give a 100% chance of recovery, alas. And he coped well. My daughter generally grew up in the belief that it is better for men to take care of children - they are better at it, women fuss too much.
The most important thing that a woman should do is create comfort, warmth and love in her home so that a man will strive to fly to his home.
Ok, what should a man do then?
Lying on the couch and watching TV while a woman scrubs the house and does all the chores?
Rave
Rave. My husband does an excellent job with cleaning and ironing, and when the child was born, he took on a lot of caring responsibilities. I can leave my husband with the child for a long time, if necessary.
We usually go to the store separately. I buy what I'm going to cook with. He is everything he wants - cheese, sausage, milk, bread, cookies, etc. Sometimes we go out together to stock up, although he sits in the car and waits for me to have a blast at the supermarket. As for the dishes, he washes the plates and spoons himself. Of course, I clean up. He's just vacuuming. As for the budget, if you entrust it to me, we will be without money for 29 days.
Those women are gone now
Oh no... there are such women) it’s hard, especially being pregnant, I think I won’t survive) but on the other hand, it’s not always necessary to change something
It's like yes women have learned to cook better than men
I have never read more nonsense in my life. I DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING. I work the same way and am just as tired, and I want to RELAX after work, and not scrub the house and cook food. Or are our men simply disabled people, incapable of anything? No? Then, if you please, also do something in the house in which you live.
What nonsense.
I myself only make a shopping list, and then only if I need to stock the refrigerator for at least 5 days. Cleans, washes dishes, bath/toilet, distributes finances - everything is done by the spouse.
In fact, the article is not nonsense, I will say from experience that if you help your loved one, nothing good will happen. They themselves whine that the man is a brute, nothing helps around the house, etc. As a result, I already have all the household responsibilities, not counting washing in the washing machine. Cleaning, washing dishes, cooking is 50/50. But that’s okay, I don’t mind helping with everyday life, but she just doesn’t even want to clean up after herself. Everything is scattered. Hints that it's time to get married, yeah. And I am already more often visited by thoughts that I don’t want to live like Cinderella. No matter how much I love my girlfriend, her refusal to respond to my requests to at least clean up after herself will lead to us breaking up.
I don't have to, go to hell?
Everything should be divided 50/50. And about children, not everyone wants them, including me. And if the wife does so much, she may be more tired than her husband. I don't owe anything to anyone. The article was written by the patriarchy.
Hello…. There are two genders - woman and man, but they don't have to do anything. A man can cook or clean or wear skirts or dresses, just as a woman can carry weights and be strong or wear jeans always. IT IS THEIR CHOICE WHAT THEY SHOULD AND DON'T DO
Thank God that in the comments there were truly adequate MEN who have equal responsibilities in the family)
Guys, wake up Deer. Cooking, washing, all household chores except those that require a hammer and tools are women’s work and making a list of groceries is a woman’s job. A woman should not and is not obliged to work. If your earnings are below 60-70k and you are not worth getting married at all, you are not fit to get married. Completely all construction, getting money, hanging pictures, moving everything heavy, making repairs is all male.
Something, but making a list of groceries or going to the store without a list compiled by me is a real problem.