A man's view of women's responsibilities in the home: 10 tasks that we are not ready to solve

In everyday life, marital responsibilities are ideally distributed equally, but in practice this greatly depends on a number of circumstances:

• raising husband and wife;
• religious preferences;
• mutual love feelings;
• physical capabilities.

I am convinced that there are household things that in the vast majority of cases are better left to the woman. But it would be absolutely wrong to imagine a wife as a silent and obedient housewife: a man should not lose self-respect at all.

The article is based on my subjective opinion and personal experience, but I hope that many men (and women) will agree with the arguments. After each section you can like or dislike.

Creating comfort in the home

In general, since primitive times, it has been the custom that a man extracts mammoth meat and saber-tooth skin, and women’s duties are to maintain order in the cave and monitor the hearth. This is fixed in the genes, and now, for the most part, it is the female sex that is more suitable for creating comfort in an apartment.

Men prefer spartan and strictly functional housing, and the purchase and placement of rugs, vases, paintings, night lights, New Year's garlands, scented candles and other cuteness puts the male sex into prostration.

Cooking

Who should cook is a very controversial issue.

Cooking should rather be done by someone who has free time and basic skills. And the best thing is to be in the kitchen together and help each other: this will strengthen the relationship.

But it often turns out that the husband comes home from work later, and the responsibility of cooking, frying, steaming and other kitchen sacred rites falls on the fragile female shoulders. Although, for example, I love and know how to cook, and my other half is not even against it.

Care for children

Both parents should participate equally in the full upbringing of the child, but in the first years of life, the presence of the mother near her son or daughter should be mandatory. This is necessary because intuitively the mother feels the needs of her children, and no one has canceled breastfeeding.

However, the father of the child must do everything in his power to ensure that his wife has at least some time for rest and entertainment.

Daily cleaning

When there is general cleaning in the house, raking out clouds of dust from under the sofa, wiping all glass surfaces and shaking out things in the closets, then the whole family needs to be mobilized (for educational purposes, children can also be given the task).

But daily dusting, watering flowers, putting things in order on the work and kitchen tables are easier for the female half, who spend a minimum of time on this with maximum efficiency.

Purchase of textiles

When choosing the appropriate textiles as fabrics and selecting shades, every housewife understands, and a man in this regard more often serves as brute force: someone has to carry heaps of towels, blankets, bedding, tablecloths and curtains around the market. It is also advisable for a woman to do the decoration, unless, of course, the husband is a professional interior designer.

Maintaining order

The saying goes correctly: “Cleanliness is not where it is swept more often, but where it is littered less often.” Men don’t often think that socks, T-shirts, mugs of unfinished tea or ashtrays are in the wrong place, so a woman has to clean up the mess in the room (although sometimes it happens the other way around).

However, you shouldn’t be a silent slave and silently eliminate chaos - it’s enough to periodically remind you of the importance of order in the house.

Washing dishes

Without a dishwasher, mountains of dirty dishes and pans become a real punishment for a married couple. But more often it is easier for a woman to wash everything herself than to persuade her husband to stand at the sink and furiously soap each plate.

For example, I hate washing dishes, but when washing kitchen utensils, my wife is distracted from gloomy thoughts, and we are more than happy with that.

Family budget distribution

It is advisable for a woman to plan expenses for large purchases and approximate daily expenses, and in advance. This even applies to going to the store: it is better for a man to follow a clear shopping list compiled by his wife, otherwise the refrigerator will be full of dumplings, convenience foods and mayonnaise.

It is always necessary to leave some money “in reserve”, since no one is insured against force majeure.

In addition to food, a woman needs to monitor the consumption of household chemicals, dishes, household utensils and other things that are unnoticeable to a man, but important.

Keep an eye on the expiration date

This primarily concerns 4 categories:

• food;
• medicines;
• hygiene products;
• household chemicals.

After all, the same expired medications will, at best, be ineffective, and at worst, they will cause harm in an already dangerous situation. Men and children usually tend to ignore these parameters, so it is advisable for a woman to take control of the expiration date of things.

Ironing

It can be quite difficult for men to gather the strength to iron a shirt or trousers. If a strict appearance is not required at work, then husbands will more often wear wrinkled clothes, arguing that they will smooth out on the body anyway and are generally not visible under the jacket.

Women with an iron somehow work more harmoniously (the reasons for this are not completely clear to me). Well, at least most men can fix a burnt iron plug, which is also useful around the house.

All of the above points should not be considered as a call to action and urgently redistribute responsibilities. Rather, this information is given for reflection and philosophical reflection on the age-old issues of family relationships.